Love - Practical or Emotional

Off late I am regularly coming across articles which lay a strong stress on presence of practical and logical reasons and means along side the emotional feeling for your partner. Such is the importance of these means, that absence or scarcity of these can tear down the relationship to pieces.

One of the prime basis of the theory is that love like hatred is a very strong emotion which can make people do things which they otherwise wouldn't even be able to think of. Such acts of "heroism" can lead to a momentary feeling of achievement or success, giving a boost to the feeling of togetherness but unless there are situations or actions of partners which feed into the fire of love continuously over time, it is bound to gradually die down or at least lower in intensity. The emotional concept of undying, unending love is often termed impractical, farce, tip of the iceberg, transitional feeling etc. Some even go the extreme end to say that love is overrated. Movies and fiction novels have created this beautiful picture of love and placed it on such high pedestal that love itself is now prying for a cover and cupid has closed eyes for people have started revering him like a God. But how much of is love worth remains debatable.

An articles focusing on comparison between love and hate, mentioned that it is scientifically proven that large parts of cerebral cortex - associated with judgement and reasoning - become de-activated during love. [1] Probably that's why the scale and scope of problems look smaller, all issues look like minor concerns and concerns are simply ignored. But when you are over the hump and reach the stagnant phase of a relationship, all of the things which were hitherto ignored become important to one's existence, some even link these to their individuality or freedom. Worse is the case, when adversities come and partners either don't do anything to replenish the feeling of love. Situations start over-powering the relationship, issues become unbeatable and everything looks gloomy.

There are two paths ahead; either the partners start putting more focus on the relationship and create means and methods to make each other feel loved or the two simply fall apart.

Reference

[1] http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/scientists-prove-it-really-is-a-thin-line-between-love-and-hate-976901.html